Childfree Book Club
Looking for books about childfreedom? We know a few.
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“When an American woman and her British husband decide to buy a two-hundred-year-old cottage in the heart of the Cotswolds, they’re hoping for an escape from their London lives. Instead, their decision about whether or not to have a child plays out against a backdrop of village fêtes, rural rambles, and a cast of eccentrics clad in corduroy and tweed.
Americashire: A Field Guide to a Marriage begins with the simultaneous purchase of a Cotswold cottage and Richardson’s ill-advised decision to tell her grandchild-hungry parents that she is going to try to have a baby. As she transitions from urban to rural life, she is forced to confront both her ambivalence about the idea of motherhood and the reality of living with a spouse who sees the world as a glass half-full. Part memoir, part travelogue – and including field guides to narrative-related Cotswold walks – Americashire is a candid, humorous tale of marriage, illness, and big life decisions.“
The Baby Matrix: Why Freeing Our Minds From Outmoded Thinking About Parenthood & Reproduction Will Create A Better World by Laura Carroll
““In the movie The Matrix, the character Morpheus offers two pills to Neo—if he takes the blue pill, he will go on with life as he has before, believing what he has always believed. If he takes the red pill, he will find out what the “matrix” really is, and many of his earlier beliefs will be shattered. When it comes to taking a hard look at a specific set of beliefs about parenthood and reproduction that has driven our society for generations, The Baby Matrix is the red pill.
The Baby Matrix looks at long-held beliefs about parenthood and reproduction, and unravels why we believe what we believe. It lays out:We commonly think our desire to have children boils down to our biological wiring, but author Laura Carroll says it’s much more than that. Unlike other books on parenthood, The Baby Matrix: Why Freeing Our Minds From Outmoded Thinking About Parenthood & Reproduction Will Create a Better World takes a serious look at powerful social and cultural influences that drive the desire for the parenthood experience, and lays out why we need to be very aware of these influences to make the most informed decisions about parenthood.
-the historical origins of beliefs about parenthood and reproduction
-why many of these beliefs no longer work for society or were never true in the first place
-why we continue to believe them anyway
-the prices society pays as a result
The Baby Matrix shows us how we got here, brings to light what is true, which includes knowing about the powerful influence of “pronatalism,” and explains why society can no longer afford to leave pronatalism unquestioned.
“This is not a book about convincing people not to have children,” says Carroll. “I want people to be very aware of the long-held social and cultural pressures, and be able to free themselves from those pressures when making parenthood choices. This will result in more people making the best decisions for themselves, will foster a society in which those who are best suited to become parents are the ones who have children and one that knows what it means to bring a child into the world today.”
This book will make you examine your own intentions and beliefs, will rile you, and might just change your mind. Whether you are already a parent, want to become a parent, are still making up your mind, or know you don’t want children, you’ll never think about parenthood in the same way.
The Baby Matrix is a must-read for anyone interested in psychology, sociology, anthropology, parenting issues, environmentalism, and social justice. But most of all, it’s for anyone, parent or not, who reveres the truth and wants the best for themselves, their families, and our world.”“
Baby Not on Board: A Celebration of Life without Kids by Jennifer Shawne
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“For anyone who’s wondered, “Why have kids when I could have fun instead?” here’s a warm and hilarious welcome to the wonderful world of unparenting! The childfree life is growing in popularity, and finally here is a book that celebrates the wisdom and wonder of that choice. For those who cherish their white shag carpet and glass coffee table, this highly interactive bookwith quizzes, sidebars, and handy checklistsoffers a range of helpful, unparenting information including ways to throw oneself an unbaby shower and strategies for coping with dreaded OPCs (other people’s children). Baby Not on Boardreminds us all that having a baby is great, but NOT having a baby is really, really great.“
Families of Two: Interviews with Happily Married Couples Without Children by Choice by Laura Carroll
“Families of Two: Interviews with Happily Married Couples Without Children by Choice, takes us into the lives of the growing number of couples who are choosing not to have children, and dispels the myths commonly associated with this choice. Families of Two provides insight for couples who are deciding whether to have children, and to friends and family of couples who have chosen or may choose not to have children. It celebrates the many people who are living lives that do not include parenthood, and the many ways to live happily ever after.“
Kidfree & Lovin’ It! – Whether by Choice, Chance or Circumstance: The complete guide to living as a non-parent (Volume 1) by Kaye D. Walters
“Twice as many people today are not having children today compared to 30 years ago. In an unprecedented survey, Kaye Walters polled 3,800 non-parents from 55 countries to find out why—in their words—they chose not to parent, and the issues they face for not doing so.
“Kidfree & Lovin’ It!” is the complete guide to living as a non-parent in a kid-centric world. The book speaks to all types of non-parents—single or coupled, male or female—whether “childfree by choice,” “kidfree by circumstance,” “childless” or “on the fence.”
Here’s a sampling of what’s inside:
• Hundreds of quotes about kids, parenting and non-parenting from the “childfree” and “childed.”
• A look at the reasons why people have kids, and a thorough examination of why others don’t.
• The “Kidfree Bingo” card containing common cliché comments used to pressure you into procreating.
• A list of “creative comebacks” to use when you get blindsided by one of the “bingos” mentioned above.
• An exclusive list of over 260 notable non-parents from past to present—including some of their thoughts on the subject.
• Dozens of resources for non-parents worldwide, including groups, websites, books and a pithy glossary of terms.“
““Oh, don’t worry,” they say when you tell them you don’t want children. “You’ll change your mind.” (Pat on knee.) What does it mean to be ‘sure’ you don’t want children? Aren’t you supposed to want them? What if the person you’re in love with wants them? And why do you feel so guilty for not wanting them? From the shocking abuse of her childhood doll to the demise of two marriages, Sylvia shares her vibrant humor and offers insight into what it really means to be child-free – without the guilt. All it takes is – Accepting your disinclination toward motherhood – Recognizing you WILL be looked at funny – Understanding that you will, in some ways, be a perpetual child (but who’s complaining?) – Being prepared for people to think they know you better than you know yourself – Knowing it could mean losing the person you love – Finding a partner who doesn’t want children – and never will (…and a little bit more)”
Planned UnParenthood Creating a Life Without Procreating by William (Dann) Alexander
“Planned UnParenthood is a refreshing look at life without having children. It gives a voice to those without children who may be afraid to say what they really want to say. It gives validity and understanding to those who are always explaining why they have made this lifestyle choice. It also gives parents some insight and thought into the attitudes they may have towards their friends and family who live life as non-parents. It takes a hard look at the reality of a society that rewards parents automatically, while sometimes by default punishing those without children. This book will explain why creating life does not necessarily have to be the main purpose of living. It affirms that not having children is in fact an option, and is a choice worthy of respect.”“
Do you know of a childfree book we failed to mention? Have we gotten the information on one of the books listed wrong? Have you read one of these books and have something to say about it? Let us know in the comments!